Not facing fear means trying to live safely. The problem is that security comes from the outside: greater security, less trust in yourself. 

Security is essential when you are a child, but little by little you have to become independent and make your own decisions even at the risk of making mistakes.

You continue on your way and come across a castle surrounded by walls and a moat. For a moment, you feel the peace of mind of having left the inhospitable place and finding a place where you can feel protected.

It’s a place where others make the decisions, take responsibility for you, and provide you with the armor and armor that makes you feel better.

Safety is living in this area.  We stay here when we are afraid of being hurt.  We use armor, helmets, shields, and swords to defend ourselves.

From time to time, we need to stay here, but it has to be a thoughtful decision and knowing that we can’t live like this forever. Security can be transformed into a prison. If you want to live fully, you have to risk taking off your armor.